My mom gets more than her share of catalogs and magazines. One day while visiting her I decided to peruse her impressive pile of publications. As I skimmed through the articles in a few of the women’s magazines, I noticed every time a women’s name was mentioned, so too, was her age, as if that bit of information alone defined her.
Valentine’s Day defines February in much the same way Christmas defines December. Whether you’ve jumped on the love bandwagon or not, you’re bombarded with images of a world ruled by romance and populated by passionate partners.
* I first wrote and published this a few years ago in my monthly ezine, Everyday Alchemy. I thought I’d dust it off and re-gift it to you this year in hopes that you’ll be my Valentine.
Every now and then it’s important to remind myself why I do what I do. It’s especially helpful to create a manifesto when I set out to improve some part of my life or break a destructive habit or resolve to do something I’ve not succeeded in doing up to this point.
As I embark on yet another incarnation of my creative life, I find a writer’s manifesto is necessary to guide me through the content intensive phase of building a brand and giving my website and blog a makeover.
The Paradoxical Commandments written by Dr Kent Keith in 1968 as part of a booklet for student leaders has been on my mind lately. This seemed like the perfect piece to adapt to serve as my writing manifesto and see me through the times when I wonder whether all this reinvention is really necessary.
Here’s what I came up with today. I share it with you to serve as an example of something you might create for yourself, substituting the obstacles and resistance you face on a regular basis along with the thing you resolve to do anyway.
To read the original commandments, click on the link above. To read the version that has been attributed to Mother Teresa, click here.
Create one for yourself, then as always, share if you dare below in the comments.
Forces may conspire to squelch my creativity,
be still and write anyway.
My muse may refuse to inspire,
log on and write anyway.
Exhaustion may convince me I’m too tired to take this on,
rest and write anyway.
Drama may attempt to declare dominance over my day,
keep calm and write anyway.
Rejection may unleash a lifetime of doubt,
ignore and write anyway.
Others may not read, agree, appreciate, or approve of what I write,
accept it and write anyway.
The pain may appear to be too terrifying to articulate,
trust the art of the heart and write anyway.
I may have said it all before and have no original thoughts,
repeat and write anyway.
I may be exposed as inconsistent, slightly irrational, or overly emotional,
risk and write anyway.
There may be 10,000 tangible things on my to-do list,
honor the intangible and write anyway.
I may need more training, guidance, editing, or research to succeed,
seek support and write anyway.
There may be millions of writers reaching for the same dream,
join them and write anyway.
In the final analysis, we all are trust fund babies of the Great Creator.
To claim my inheritance, all that is required is to write anyway.
Please note I did not title this, “Just Keeping Snowing,” although clearly someone must have sent up that request at the same time someone else requested subzero temps.
Maybe it was those winter Olympians who wanted us to be able to relate to the conditions they thrive in. Let me just say they had me at “luge“. Nothing more is required to earn my respect.
Lately I’ve been awed by athletes of all kinds. With the spotlight on the winter Olympics and the incredible amounts of training required to get there, it’s easy to underestimate the amount of training required to get us through the day.
There are situations that require every ounce of determination and discipline we possess to get us through a meeting, a difficult conversation, or an after-school activity involving more than three events going on at the same time.
Phrases like, “If you’re going through hell, keep going,” or “The only way out is through,” come to mind when I think of situations that call for perseverance. They don’t sugarcoat the fact that the present moment isn’t pleasant or current circumstances in no way simulate the comfort of the couch.
They imply that whatever you’re in the middle of is tough, challenging, or attempting to kick your ass, but you are equal to the task. In this moment, you can deal with whatever is in front of you and will eventually figure it out, no matter how badly you’d rather be playing ping pong.
In order to do this, you must do what my favorite blue fish Dory does. Just keep swimming. Or snowboarding. Or writing. Or working. Or doing what’s necessary to keep your family afloat or yourself sober or kids safe or your parents healthy or your business profitable or your self-esteem intact.
Challenges do not have to be dramatic. You may need a degree of difficulty to keep it interesting, fresh, or engaging, but high drama is not necessary.
As I was entertaining this idea of just keep swimming, I came across a TED talk by a woman who blew it right out of the water (pun intended).
When Diana Nyad says just keep swimming, she means just keep swimming for over 50 + hours straight from Cuba to Florida. I listened to the details with disbelief. Can any human actually do this? Especially a woman who is 64 and already attempted it 4 times? And the real question is, why would she want to?
But incredibly she did! She lived to tell about it and encourage us to never give up.
I love to swim, if I have my zoomers, hand fins, swim cap with flowers, water iPod, and an open lap lane in a relatively warm and secluded pool. I have no desire to swim in a shark infested, jelly fish ridden, pitch black salt water sea of unimaginable terrors.
My degree of difficulty lies in swimming without being detected by anyone I know. All this ridiculous swim gear rivals my ridiculous winter gear. But just as the pink coveralls keep me toasty in the frozen tundra, the swim gear makes my arms and legs work harder, and the music motivates me to swim longer and steadier than I might without it.
Having the right tools for the task makes all the difference. Of all my tools, the one I wield with any predictability, power, or influence is my attitude.
So, might I suggest you jump in? The water’s fine if you just keep swimming.
I’m no football fan. But there are things to appreciate about Super Bowl Sunday.
As groups of party goers huddle together around chip dips and big screen tvs across the country, commenting more on the commercials than the game, I can retreat to the quiet of my uncluttered office, collect my thoughts, and possibly post them before the end of the game.
If that plan fails, I can sneak out to our local super store and grab some groceries, confident that the aisles will be relatively empty and I might actually return home with the one thing I set out to secure.
I like a good gathering as much as the next person, but I absolutely savor the times I can slip into something comfortable and soak up the silence that sets in at twilight. Abbey, my resident muse and guardian angel dog, just curled up next to me as she has done every night for the past month as I sit down to blog.
She knows the drill. There will be much movement. I seldom settle in one position for more than a paragraph. Then my foot thinks it should jiggle, my leg wants to fold under my seat, my back needs to crack, my wrist longs for a good stretch, and I crave a snack at the precise moment Abbey craves a Busy Bone.
What a writer needs as much as a good idea is the ability to sit still and focus. All this contorting of arms and legs is kind of like the pregame show. It’s required to build the hype and get me fired up and ready to write a few good words.
Ideas flirt with me throughout the day and compete for my attention. Sometimes they even wake me up and insist on expressing themselves before my eyelids are open.
This morning thoughts of the Brrry Scurry woke me. I volunteer at the 4-mile race sponsored by our college and many local businesses to help raise money for scholarships for CCC students. Yesterday I got my best assignment to date. Actually any inside job is a good one since it’s usually quite cold outside, putting the brrrry in the scurry.
Yesterday I got to volunteer at the water table. This meant after the runners were done I got to greet them with a “Woo-hoo!“, “Way to go!” and “Would you like some water?“
Some jobs are thankless jobs. This one was just the opposite. I’ve never heard so many thank-you’s in one afternoon. The more thanks I got the more “woo-hoos” I gave. It was an endless appreciation loop,
Since Friday night I completed the blogging equivalent of a 4-mile race in cold and snowy conditions, I felt especially inclined to celebrate the success of the runners and walkers as they completed their goal. While runners are their own brand of crazy complete with outrageous outfits, it was fun to acknowledge every one of them who came up to the water table.
We all have that thing that we will make time to do, not because we’re getting paid the big bucks, but because we cannot not do it. It’s who we are at our core.
What would make someone want to run 4 miles in February in Iowa? Over 500 people showed up to do just that, each with their own reason for being there, some traveling from neighboring states.
I love the idea of manifestos. So much so that when I had one of those milestone birthdays, I put together my midlife manifesto, made a little movie illustrating my ideas, and started declaring all kinds of things.
But manifestos are only the beginning. Like mission statements, they only work if we actually abide by them. To paraphrase the good book, in the beginning, there might be the word. But if our actions don’t back up those words, we might as well save ourselves the trouble of uttering them.
So on super Sunday I’m skipping the shenanigans that go along with the big game and instead celebrating the commitment that got the teams there, got friends together to watch, got creative people putting out their edgiest, funniest or riskiest ads, got runners running for a cause, and got me back in my blogging chair.
PS – Just as I was about to hit “publish” the ad I’d been waiting all night to see came on. If you’re guessing it was the Budweiser one with the puppy, the “ponies”, and my favorite song by Passenger, Let Her Go, you’re right.